“I will not rescue you, for you are not powerless.
I will not fix you, for you are not broken.
I will not heal you, for I see you in your wholeness.
I will walk with you through the darkness, as you remember your light.”
- A Medicine Woman's Prayer by Sheree Bliss Tilsley
I am a clinical psychologist with over 12 years of experience in working with children, parents (caregivers), adolescents and adults in both private practice and in a psychiatric institution context.
I have found that therapy can touch the corners of our souls, to be on a journey with someone. I believe in the process and not necessarily in the designation (goals or aims) of living. I believe in self-compassion, and that we must have compassion for ourselves to grow and to continue on our journey.
Internship - Weskoppies Psychiatric Hospital (2010)
Community Service - Weskoppies Psychiatric Hospital (2011)
Part-time Private Practice (2013 - 2016)
Consultant Clinical Psychologist - Weskoppies Psychiatric Hospital (2012 - 2021)
Full-time Private Practice (2021 - present)
- PhD Mental Health (University of Pretoria) – 2019
- MSc. Clinical Psychology (North-West University) – 2011
- BSc. Honours in Psychology (North-West University) – 2008
- BSc. Psychology and Physiology (North-West University) – 2007
Lanèl Marè's area of expertise:
Depression and anxiety
When a therapeutic relationship is established the relationship is used to explore aspects of a person’s past in depth and to show how it has led to the current depression and anxiety. Understanding this link between past and present (through insight) helps to resolve depression and anxiety, and to make a person less vulnerable to becoming depressed and anxious again.
Psychological therapy with adults is a journey together with a therapist into a person’s internal world of thoughts, feelings and experiences. Through the exploration of one’s internal world within a therapeutic relationship, a process of healing and well-being can unfold. It requires honesty and authenticity from oneself to process some of the past hurts along with current experiences.
Childhood trauma therapy aims to recognise and emphasise understanding how the traumatic experience as a child impacts a person’s mental, behavioural, emotional, and physical well-being. To help with the processing of trauma both the body and the mind are given attention in therapy, as trauma is often experienced within the body.
Parenting support and skills
Parenting support helps parents when they are faced with difficult moments in parenting. The therapy aims to help parents identify, address, and manage their own past or present experiences that may be affecting the way they relate to their child. In some cases, the therapy may also help parents better communicate between each other to maintain a cohesive and structured parenting approach.
The therapy space provides a judgement-free zone for parents to discuss tough moments in parenting and learn how to better manage these tough moments moving forward. Overall, the therapy aims to provide parents with the necessary knowledge, tools, guidance, and support to take care of their children in the most ideal way possible.
Children and Teenagers
• Children (age 8 – 12)
Psychological therapy with children can include talking, playing, or other activities to help the child express feelings and thoughts. The therapy process usually starts with a comprehensive intake interview with the child’s legal guardians / primary caregivers, followed by a thorough evaluation of the child’s mental health (1 – 3 sessions) to figure out what type of therapy might work best.
• Teenagers (age 13 – 18)
Psychological therapy with teenagers helps adolescents deal with tough emotions and situations, mental health conditions, trauma, or concerns related to future, present, or past. The therapy process usually starts with a comprehensive intake interview with the teenagers’ legal guardians / primary caregivers, after which an interpersonal therapeutic.
Sandplay is a therapeutic method developed by Dora M. Kalff, in Zollikon, Switzerland. It is based on the psychological principles of C.G.Jung. Sandplay is a creative form of therapy using the imagination, “a concentrated extract of the life forces both physical and psychic.” (C.G.Jung) It is characterized by the use of sand, water and miniatures in the creation of images within a “free and protected space” of the therapeutic relationship and the sand tray.
A series of Sandplay images portrayed in the sand tray create an ongoing dialogue between the conscious and the unconscious aspects of the client’s psyche, which activates a healing process and the development of the personality.
This therapeutic method may be successfully applied to individual work with both adults and children.